The corporate world is a fast-paced and competitive space where bright and hardworking people thrive. However, it typically comes with high expectations, tight deadlines and unrelenting pressure. I used to say “leave work at work” however for many, work starts again when children are in bed when the laptop comes out to respond to emails or chat with colleagues States-side. For anyone with perfectionistic tendencies, the drive for excellence can be counterproductive, creating unnecessary stress and anxiety when already working super hard or at capacity. Here are some tips to help manage stress, maintain productivity and find balance.
1. Understand How Personality Affects Stress
Perfectionists and highly demanding individuals often hold themselves and those around them, to exceptionally high standards. While this can lead to outstanding results, it can often make us overly critical of ourselves and of others; it can lead to increased anxiety from focusing only on what’s wrong rather than what’s going right; it can also lead to overcommitment and eventually to burnout. Spend time reflecting on how your personality influences your stress levels. Are you striving for perfection when “good enough” would be enough? Recognising this tendency is a first step towards positive change.
2. Redefine Success
Perfectionism can create a paralysing fear of failure or dissatisfaction with anything less than flawless. the solution is to shift your focus from perfect outcomes to valuable progress. Ask yourself: “What is the minimum effective outcome for this task?” Sometimes, good enough really is good enough. Focus on delivering results rather than obsessing over every minute detail.
Perfection isn’t always practical. If 90% is enough to drive matters forward, then please don’t waste your time chasing the final 10%.
3. Manage Expectations
High performers can expect others to have a matchinglevel of intensity and/or precision, leading to frustration and interpersonal tension when colleagues/your team don’t play by your rules or meet your expectations. The solution is to practice flexibility and empathy in all of your interactions. Recognise that others can have different strengths, priorities, and working styles. Set realistic deadlines and goals for yourself and your team. Again by focusing on the outcomes, and not micromanagement you will encourage autonomy and reduce your own stress while empowering others.
4. Prioritise
Perfectionists and overachievers tend to treat all tasks as equally important. This is just a waste of time and effort. Use tools like the Eisenhower Matrix to determine which tasks are:
Urgent and important: tend to these first.
Important but not urgent: schedule these.
Urgent and not important: delegate or minimise.
Neither urgent nor important: disregad completely.
Let go of low-value tasks that don’t meaningfully contribute to your goals.
5. Mistakes are Growthful
Perfectionists can fear mistakes, viewing them as failures rather than opportunities to learn. Reframe mistakes as valuable feedback. Take the lesson – “What did I learn from this?” “How can I improve?” Share your mistakes with others because it humanises you and it will build trust. Innovation thrives on trial and error. Mistakes can be necessary for breakthroughs.
6. Practice Self-Compassion
I am a bore about self-compassion! Talk to yourself as you would another about whom you care/love. High achievers or perfectionists are often their own harshest critics. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d offer a friend. Replace self-critical thoughts with affirmations like, “I’m doing my best right now.” Acknowledge successes, even small ones, instead of dwelling on what didn’t go perfectly. Write down three things you did well each day. This helps to shift focus from shortcomings to accomplishments – develop an attitude of gratitude.
7. Boundaries Protect Energy
Perfectionists typically overcommit and take on too much in an effort to meet every demand. Learning how to say “no” and set boundaries will help to avoid burnout. Identify tasks or responsibilities that don’t align with your values/priorities and politely decline them. Create “work-free” zones or times to protect your personal time and recharge. Walk out of the office to look at the sky and return with fresh air in your lungs (not accurate but you’ll get my drift!) Practice saying ‘no’ by framing things positively: “I’d love to help with that task but I have to focus on [xxxxxxx] to give it my best effort.”
8. Delegate Without Perfectionism
Delegating can be tough because others won’t meet your standards. Trust your team. Empower others to take ownership. Focus on communicating clear goals, objectives and expectations (instead of micromanaging how the work gets done). Accept that others will approach tasks differently from you and do things their way and that’s okay! They are not you. Delegation is a leadership skill. By letting go, you create space for strategic work and reduce stress.
9. Use Mindfulness
Racing thoughts and constant demands can make stress feel unmanageable. Incorporate mindfulness techniques to stay grounded and focused. Try box breathing: inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, and hold for 4 seconds. Use mindfulness apps during your breaks at work and make breaks for their use such as Headspace or Calm or the Mindshift CBT Mindfulness isn’t about clearing your mind of all thoughts (not sure how that could be achieved), it’s really about trying to bring an awareness to the present moment without judgement.
10. Recognise When Perfectionism Hinders Efficiency
Spending excessive time refining tasks that are already complete delays progress and increases stress. Set time limits for perfectionist tendencies. You might allocate a set amount of time to polish a presentation or proofread a report, then move on. You might ask yourself: “Will anyone notice the difference if I spend another hour on this?” and if not, it’s time to let go. While having every bullet point the same size or every full stop is necessary it’s not worth losing sleep over. Progress is more important than perfection. Done is often better than perfect.
11. Build Resilience Through Self-Care
Neglecting your well-being in pursuit of success depletes your energy and focus. Invest in physical and mental health through consistent self-care. Get regular exercise to reduce tension and improve focus. Prioritise sleep and ensure no late-night perfectionism sessions! Nourish your body with healthy meals instead of relying on caffeine or sugar for energy. Schedule self-care like you would an important meeting. Protect that time as non-negotiable.
12. Redefine Feedback as a Growth Opportunity
Highly driven people often see constructive criticism as a sign of failure. Reframe all or any feedback as an opportunity for improvement. Actively seek feedback to gain perspective and build stronger outcomes. Separate your work from you and your identity. Criticism of a task isn’t criticism of you as a person!
You might try to celebrate feedback by thanking the person for their input and reflecting on how it can help or benefit you. I don’t like criticism because I am a human – no one likes criticism but it’s healthy to be challenged on our frame of reference and to learn about how others view matters. That’s growthful. Thinking we know everything is having a very fixed mindset.
13. Celebrate Progress
Perfectionists might focus only on what’s left to achieve, neglecting how far they’ve come. So always keep an eye and acknowledge all the milestones along the way. Break big projects into smaller goals and celebrate their completion. Create a “wins journal” to track daily or weekly accomplishments, regardless of how small. Progress breeds momentum. Recognising achievements helps maintain motivation and reduces stress.
14. Develop a Resilient Mindset
Stress often stems from negative thinking patterns, like catastrophising or focusing on the worst-case scenarios. Reframe challenges as opportunities to learn and grow. Ask yourself, “what’s the best outcome?” or “what if this works out well?” Focus on solutions rather than dwelling on challenges or problems. Build mental resilience by practicing gratitude and every day list three things you’re thankful for particularly during tough times.
15. Know When to Seek Support
Bright, hardworking professionals often feel they should handle stress on their own, fearing it might appear as a weakness to ask for help. Peopel come into my clinic and say I can’t believe I’m here and couldn’t manage by myself. Recognise that seeking support is a sign of strength. Talk to a trusted colleague, mentor or work place coach about challenges you’re facing. If stress persists, consider professional help from a therapist, counsellor/psychotherapist/psychologist who specialises in corporate environments. Please don’t wait until you’re overwhelmed. Seeking support early can prevent stress from escalating.
Aim for Balance – perfectionism can be an asset in the corporate world, as it drives exceptional results. However, when left unchecked, it can lead to anxiety, stress, and burnout. By recognising when perfectionism isn’t advantageous, embrace progress over perfection, and prioritise self-care, we will ensure balance in our lives without sacrificing our emotional and/or physical health and wellbeing.
Success isn’t about doing everything perfectly, it’s about achieving meaningful results while maintaining a sustainable approach. You might think you’re irreplaceable in your workplace however you might ask yourself – if I died in the morning would this company stay going without me?
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