Christimas Dos & Don’ts!

The Do’s and Don’ts of Christmas 2018!

Christmas is almost here! Some of us will be thrilled with this and some of us, less so. Christmas can be a time of great joy or huge stress (or both)! Christmas can be a difficult time, particularly when it is the first Christmas without a loved one or when there has been a change to the family composition. Every first is tough following a life change so aim to do things at your own pace and remember to be kind to you.

Here are some “dos and don’ts” for Christmas 2018.

Don’t overdo it and exhaust yourself – remember to make time for breaks, rest and relaxation.

Don’t try to do everything yourself – delegate and ask for help.

Don’t rush. Slow down; taste, smell, enjoy and savour every moment.

Don’t assume everyone shares your expectations for Christmas. Respect that others may not have the same plans or traditions (‘each to their own’).

Don’t drink too much alcohol. Enjoy moderation. Same goes for food – a little of what you fancy does you good.

Don’t react. When something is upsetting you, bite your tongue and come back to chat about it when you are in control.

Don’t get into debt because of Christmas. Spend within your budget. Santa loves bringing one present to each child, perhaps with a surprise!

Don’t get too distracted during the holidays by fussing, tidying, cooking etc. Be present for your loved ones.

Don’t hold grudges. People make mistakes. Forgive easily so you can enjoy Christmas in each other’s company.

Don’t stress about Christmas. It will come and go but what memories will you have?

Don’t argue with family, friends or with anyone – it’s not necessary. Discussion and debate are fine.

Don’t take things too seriously – have fun, laugh, play, smile.

Don’t expect perfection. It is not attainable. Good enough is good enough.

Do take responsibility. Whatever you do or say and how you behave – these are all within your control and are your responsibility. You are an adult, be accountable for your actions.

Do engage in activities that you enjoy with people who are easy to be with.

Do say you are sorry when you get something wrong. Own up. Apologise readily, especially to your children.

Do pay attention to your feelings. If you are not in great form, ask yourself what you can do to improve your mood and act.

Do try to disconnect as much as possible from technology and reconnect with friends and family.

Do write three things every day for which you are grateful. Count your blessings, not your problems.

Do ensure you get enough physical exercise to help you remain calm particularly at what you know will be potentially stressful times.

Do remember that although it takes two people to argue it only takes one to stop. If you are right about something, there is no need to prove someone else wrong.

Do face each day with a positive outlook. Look for the things that are right and good.

Do speak positively about and to others.

Do something today and every day this December for which your future self will thank you!

Every best wish for Christmas and beyond xxx