50 Tips for Life

(in no particular order!)

Most of us could use a few reminders to help make our lives easier and happier. Here are 50 tips for life that might help you feel more content – if you put them into practice!

Smile. Laugh.
Count your blessings. Develop gratitude.
Learn to say no and to ask for what you want (it’s effective communication). Say yes without expectation.
Nothing changes because you complain. Change comes with action. Stop complaining – the negativity is not good for you or for those around you!
Declutter. Happiness doesn’t come from ‘stuff’ (it actually comes from giving).
Awareness is key to change. Get to know yourself.
Live life according to your expectations and not the expectations of others.
Forgive people. Don’t hold grudges. Forgive you. Don’t hold regrets.
Listen more. Talk less especially when someone speaks to you.
Mind your mental health. Spend time daily with your thoughts to help you destress.
Plan your meals and make them from scratch.
Ask for help and be specific e.g. “can you please mind the children for one hour on Saturday while I take a break?”
Don’t buy anything simply because it is reduced.
Watch your self-talk. Be your own cheerleader.
Put out tomorrow’s clothes today i.e. prepare for tomorrow today.
Gently stretch when you wake.
Stay connected. Research shows our health is negatively affected when we are socially isolated.
Do not buy clothes hoping they will fit at some stage. When you buy new clothes, get rid of old ones.
Hugs are healing. Pets can provide great company and most love hugs if there are no humans to hug.
Disconnect from technology. Reconnect with nature and people.
Dance. Anytime, anywhere.
Salute people. You might be the only contact someone has when you say “good morning”. Always say “thank you”. It’s nice.
Get a good night’s sleep. Stick to a bedtime routine. Aim for 7-9 hours. Sleep restores body and brain.
Your day will go the way the corners of your mouth turn.
Instead of watching tv do something productive. Plant a seed, write a letter, read a book, visit a neighbour etc.
Treat yourself.
Diet and nutrition is one way to mind our mental health. Vitamin and mineral deficiencies can affect how we feel and think. B12, D, Zinc, Omega 3 fatty acids, iron, selenium and other deficiencies in minerals, amino acids and proteins can negatively affect our mental state. Have your bloods checked.
Retrain your brain to spot the positive, rather than the negative.
Listen to music that you like.
Get daily sunlight.
No one is any better or any worse than you. Regularly remind yourself of this because you are enough.
Learn how to control your angry reactions – take deep breaths rather than shouting or swearing. Don’t lose your temper with anyone. Ever.
You don’t know what you would do if you were in someone else’s shoes. Stop judging others. Stop judging yourself. Humans make mistakes. Learn from them.
Whatever your age, keep active. Keep your body healthy with movement.
Respect the environment. Recycle. Have a compost bin.
Stay hydrated. Watch the colour of your pee – the more you drink, the clearer your urine looks. The colour is more concentrated when you drink less fluid.
Sing. It’s good for your health and it’s calming.
Keep a journal – it can help you keep track of your day-to-day feelings and emotions.
Learn to slow down your breath. Exhale for longer than you inhale a few times a day.
Write a list of your worries and turn that list into a plan of action.
We flourish with praise. Focus on the things you get right. Praise yourself and readily give praise to others.
Be considerate. You have no idea what’s going on for others. Be kind at every opportunity.
Mind your physical health by keeping your body strong and fit.
Reduce or cut out alcohol, caffeine, processed foods, sugar, screen-time, cigarettes, stressful situations, negative people, naps late in the afternoon, staying up late or sleeping in.
Increase time with positive people, your intake of vegetables, fruit, wholegrains, bright berries, nuts, protein and fresh produce. Eat more beats, garlic and broccoli.
Feed your senses i.e. eyes (sight), ears (sound), skin (touch), tongue (taste) and nose (smell).
Wear bed socks to help keep your body warm while you sleep.
Have health-checks e.g. smear, hearing, dental, breast, sight, vitamin, hormone, prostate etc – whatever it is that you should get done – go do it!
Let go of trying to figure out ‘why’. There isn’t always a ‘why’ and if you had a ‘why’ what would it change?
No one likes a “know-all”. Don’t give advice unless someone expressly wants it and, even then, ask if he/she is absolutely sure!
Always have goals, like dreams, they’re appropriate for every age. Have short, medium and long-term, achievable goals. Write them down. Acknowledge achievements. Set new goals – keep going.

Yes that is 51! I couldn’t resist.

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A New Year, A New Me? Maybe Not!

A New Year A New Me?

A new year, a new me! Really? I don’t know how many times we read and hear this phrase at the start of every new year. I even say it myself as I’m eating chocolates at breakfast time during the end of year holidays! The news is that we are all the same people whether it is January or July. We do not enter a new year suddenly transformed into a different more abstemious person. We might, however, set a goal for ourselves for the year ahead.

Try to remember that you are perfect just the way you are. You don’t need to change and become someone else although you might want to start exercising or shed a kilo or two or perhaps cut down on processed foods etc but do not make your happiness dependent on achieving something in the future. People often say that they will be happy when they reach a target weight or achieve a certain something like a promotion or a new house for example but I am doubtful that it’s an accurate prediction of contentment.

Now is the time to feel great about yourself. If you feel good right now, just imagine how amazing you will feel when you achieve your goals or attain your 2018 resolutions.

If you do not feel too great right now, try not to be too hard on yourself. January is a very tough month for many. Couples often stay together over Christmas knowing that the new year will bring a change to their relationship; being in debt can be stressful or knowing your credit card bill will be severe because of overspending on presents or on the sales; when family has returned to their homes and the house is quiet or not having family members to rely on can leave one person with several responsibilities and that too can feel exhausting.

Returning to work and facing back into our usual routine can also be difficult. Knowing that there is no routine of work can also be upsetting. However, January is not all doom and gloom. I would like to reassure you that if you are having a hard time in January that you are not alone. Several people are feeling like you do right now i.e. not super enthusiastic that it is the start of a new year! This is a common feeling and you are entitled to feel however you feel!

Try to be gentle with yourself. Give yourself a break. Telling someone how you feel, chatting about your worries and fears can help you gain perspective. Talk to a trusted friend or family member or to a healthcare professional.

What can lift our mood in January?

Start with small steps towards achieving your New Year’s goal. When you do something that you know to be good or beneficial, acknoweldge and celebrate your achievements, this will help you continue towards achieving your goal.

Cut down or avoid alcohol to help your system detox after the overindulgences of the holiday period.

Increase your intake of brightly coloured fresh fruit and veg.

Eat at regular intervals. We often go without food for hours and then gorge ourselves on whatever rubbish is to hand. Plan your meals in advance but pay attention that you are eating regularly.

Turn up the music. It transports us in time, makes us feel good and lifts our spirits.

Get out of the house and spend more time in nature. Resist the urge to stay wrapped up indoors and force yourself to get out . You will be thankful that you made the effort to leave the house.

Once it is okay to do so, why don’t you pick up the phone and ask someone to meet you for a coffee and a chat. If they say no then that’s perfectly okay but someone might say yes! Or suggest going for a walk and you have both exercise and a chat all rolled into one!

Movement is key to keeping our bodies healthy and dancing in the kitchen, taking the stars, jumping on the spot, all count as exercise – keep your body active.

Have your bloods checked (including vitamin levels) with your doctor to ensure that your body is in tip top condition. Visit the dentist and optician for check ups. Save up for these health screens if you must but having a clean bill of health is priceless and if there is something that requires attention, finding out in time is crucial to receiving the best care.

Good quality, uninterrupted sleep is vital for our mental and physical health. Working shifts, having small children or a baby will mean your sleep is interrupted so catch up with naps if necessary. Sleep can be rectified over time so seek help to ensure you are getting sufficient good quality uninterrupted shut-eye! See some further info here https://carolinecrotty.ie/sleep/

Having self-confidence to make mistakes or noticing our self-talk and challenging any negative dialogue are worthwhile new year goals. Not eating chocolate at breakfast time is a great goal because minding our bodies is our investment in our future selves.

For this new year perhaps set the goal to be kind to you.